Friday, November 4, 2011
1. Open door. Okay, I say, come in. I'm busy right now but if you can find something you like in the kitchen, knock yourself out. You can join me and see what I'm doing if you want or just make yourself at home. I don't have time right now but when I have a minute I'll be glad to chat. But, I tell you now, it's all on my terms or nothing. I'm not giving you any rights in my house.
2. " Oh, oh, oh. Someones knocking at the door." Sound of scurrying about. "Gotta put this away. Oh, this place is such a terrible mess. Well, I'll stuff this all in the closet and run a duster over the visible places. Can't invite anyone in to such a mess. There, nobody will note the fuzz balls under the couch. Okay"
Open the door and smiling brightly invite your guest in. You are so glad to be able to feel confident that you only need this guest for the big things - like moving mountains. You can handle the small stuff.
3. Open door. "Hello. Come in. Hope you brought your mop and pail. I am busy but you only came to clean up after me so have at it. But work quietly. I don't like the sound of careless cleaners. When it's done fix me a bite to eat. Oh, while your at it make yourself something too. I have a room up in the attic you can make your own. Just shove my stuff to the side and make yourself at home."
4. Open door. "Oh Jesus. Welcome. Come in Come in." You throw your arms around him and find yourself crying into his chest. "Thank you for coming. I don't even know where to begin but I want you here. Make this home yours. Please forgive me for the big mess I've made. I need you to change me into a child whose life reflects you. Thank you for coming.